It is not a simple task to ignore those who are trying to discourage us from pursuing our dreams. Their intentions are generally well-meant and their arguments tend to make “sense”, but the fact remains that it is OUR dream and not theirs, and as such they will always fail to recognize the importance of it.
When we pursue our dreams, something unavoidable happens; it affects everyone around us. You might think this is a positive aspect of our work, but it almost always has a negative impact for one very specific reason; if we succeed in achieving our dream it proves that they can to. Let’s face it, the world is FULL of people with failed or abandoned dreams and they don’t want to know that they’ve walked away from something that could’ve changed their lives. But more to the core, they don’t want you to succeed when they themselves have failed. You’d think, if they loved us or cared about us, the opposite would be true; that they would want to see us succeed even more than ever, but that isn’t the way the human psyche works. Instead, when we’ve failed, we want to “protect” the ones we love from experiencing the same heart break and disappointment that we have had to deal with. And so, the very people who aught to be encouraging us to continue in our pursuit of joy, fulfillment and a sense of contentment, are the very ones who try to keep us from it.
The tools most often employed against us are: shame for being so self-centered, guilt for not being satisfied, chastisement for not being “realistic”, and fear about where failure would leave us. And believe me, these are powerful, powerful tools designed to elicit a whole range of emotions that will threaten to undermine our resolve, and cause us to question our actions and intention.
When we recognize that these tools are meant to manipulate us by those who are either threatened by our pursuit of happiness, or those who wish to spare us the pain and heartbreak of failure, the tools no longer hold any power over us. Choosing to ignore those who discourage us is not fool-hearty, it is absolutely imperative! Those who are unwilling to step out on their own despite the warnings and advice against doing so, will never achieve anything more than regret, discontentment, and much resentment.
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Jus came back from sentosa trip today.. actually was supposed to be a working trip, then ended up more of a fun thing.. heys, it does show tt ppls serious can become happy de.. can enjoy themselves.. =) lol.. (kelvin woon! I bet u also enjoyed urself lor.. still come n say I got this kind of attitude, dunno hu was the one hu wanted sentosa eh?) sometimes ppls jus dun see themselves, n come n criticize others. Heys, I dunwan my friends 2 b liddat k? cos tt type of ppls r one of e worst characters.. I see ppls based on character de, u 4got ah? lol.. anw, it was a nice trip la.. thx.. at least felt relaxed la, felt lk I was wif my kor,( save tt he doesn’t tao or criticize me.. ) lol.. piao che was fun la, except tt we dun get to do it often la.. its nice.. =) can feel the speed and the wind in your hair.. =D u know, sometimes I know got some ppls acting guai de.. lk sth den dunwan say lk, try to be those law abiding in front of me.. --___-- haiz.. y u dunwan to be frank in front of ur friends.. u dun trust me? =’( haiz.. oh well, nvm.. ate a lot of chawamushi.. (is tt how u spell it?) damn nice lor.. kel intro me de.. =) the carlsburg tower was damn high lor.. can see the whole city.. zhuang guan.. coolz.. underwater world quite funny.. got cute kids dere.. n got angelfish also cute cute de.. =) museum “Images of Singapore” was damn funny.. I was talking abt ben stiller’s night at the museum.. “hey did u watch night at the museum?” “ermz.. no, but heard of it..” (passageway very dim..) “oh, its abt a museum where the things in dere come alive at night..” (passageway pops out a man in malay clothes from under the stairs! “WELCOME TO Singapore!! here you will find....” OMG. Super creepy.. wth.. i was shocked.. hahax.. damn funny lor.. freaky man.. whoo.. in for scares.. in the end we dun even know whether the things r fake or real.. LOL. got a few jap figures damn scary de.. faces all lk demons.. ee.. gives me the chills.. but the end was damn coolio la.. disco lights.. nice music in e bg.. ;) really gave me a high.. cos no one was dere.. so can fang zhong n shua feng qi without being screwed.. hahax.. luge was the best la.. dunno wad to describe it with.. but it rox.. really. one word.. zai! =D
Den went to eat at sake sushi.. walking back saw some fellas at carlsburg beach bar dressed in their supposedly working attire.. lol? I tht it was damn wrong lor.. spoils e Singapore girl’s image.. dunno y kelvin tht it was alright, but I din wanna argue la.. =P tired le.. lol..
Ok, kel had to rush to mt steff for his rj dance concert n I was zaoing 4 dinner wif my fren, so we did really make a move in e end.. lol.. hahax.. come to think of it, jus thinking to myself, am I a bad boy? Go lan wif mr n kel, go pool wif vic, dl illegal songs, drink b4 vodka n mountain dew, drive without license..(of course its our own race track n not on e main road. --__--) haiz.. musn’t learn frm me la.. bad example.. =P lol.. prolly only jus my close friends know la, cos I set quite a gd example for the rest.. hahax.. =D lol..
Anw, thx kel, really enjoyed myself tdy.. it was nice to hav sb tt u can relax wif la.. jus DUN criticize me, den u’re quite a nice fren le, n dun tao ppls, cos its rude. Can? ;) thx 4 everything in e day..
Well, I jus realized tt I really 4give ppls really easily, though I will never forget their deeds, I seem to be softened by their actions n when they look as if they’ve changed.. well.. is my heart too kind? O.O? lol..
Hmm.. kel injured himself while playing bball.. lol.. eh, take care hor.. ;) dun let ur frens worry abt u k?
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went pool with vic tdy, damn fun.. 1st game was really fun.. den l8er u wanna give chance not fun le.. =( haiz.. I know my skills not fun but u dun suan me until liddat can? --__-- lol.. but aside frm tt it was quite fun la.. can c tt ur skills r bttr den mine.. cos I only played once b4? Lol.. nxt time can join u’all again den play again la.. ;) hahax.. after tt den went back, treated vic 2 choc cone.. hehe.. lol.. went home aft tt la.. enjoyed myself ba.. u lame arnd all the time.. lol.. hope u enjoyed urself too! =) hahax..
now think abt it.. its quite rare tt we can spend time with our friends, jus liddat.. I feel happy.. hahax.. yea, cos I usually feel more relaxed when I go out with close friends, not so protective and careful anymore lk normal sch days.. hahax.. thx 4 tdy.. wish tt I could jus b tt carefree everyday.. but its jus not possible ba.. hahax.. so treasure the times tt we spend with our close friends.. they dun come easy.. lol.. e chain looks quite nice on u ba.. looks more cool.. =) take care, my brother.
now still learning e blade dance with sapphire. saw my ex-close friend’s msg tdy. lol.. dun think I’ll b free.. but I wun 4get wad I’ve committed myself to. save tt im jus doin it out of commitment, and doin the least tt im expected to. u can be sure its not out of past friendship.. cos I wun forget how u broke them. seems tt the hatred can be used to fire up my power when executing lunges.. now become more perfect le.. lol.. anw I gtg now.. bye. thx vic, I had a gd time tdy.. =)
slashed at 9:54 PM .
Hmm.. long time nv blog le.. bloggie n taggie almost dead.. lol.. thx chloe 4 reviving it.. hahax.. =)
Spent a lot of my time with the RIGE camp I suppose, tt’s y even hols also nv really enjoyed the first quarter.. 2 bz rushing ba.. finally efforts do pay off la.. hahax.. ok, I shall tok abt e camp..
Went sch at 745, go dere watch species to spook myself out.. din manage to though.. cos vic n jia kai came aftwards, den we ended up watching 300.. arnd 850 den went to check on everyone.. only very few dere la.. jb atrium is quite a large space, but only a few people.. --__-- sian.. 26 in total.. can c tt a lot of them had PONNED. Wth. nvm la. heck.. they wan 2 pon n miss out on the fun and games we’ve planned is their fault la.. once a yr camp.. this yr spent so much time makin it fun 4 all n yet they dunwan come.. 4get it la.. I’ll jus let those hu came enjoy themselves.. =) lol.. first activity, station games. was ic for warcraft 3 dota.. lol.. so 2 teams hav to fight it out among each other, and shoot down the cones of the other team using plastic balls.. zai.. was damn fun.. lol.. some grps even wanted 2 play it again.. =P hahax.. so let them jus play 4 fun lor.. den lunch.. jon gan 4got the map and some clues, so we had to impromptu them.. --__--“ exco lag so let them stone on their own 4 awhile.. LOL. jon gan went home 2 print n change up (cos.. ahem..) while the rest of us continued to discuss in the guit rm.. till lk 1 plus.. we decided to order macs.. ordered a mcspicy meal upsize.. vic super LOL la.. HAHAX.. order 3 double cheeseburger.. =D l8er said he bought 1 4 jon gan de.. (cos he couldn’t finish..) super LOL la.. tio scammed.. =S jokes la.. hahax.. made me laugh until cry liddat.. =P lol.. decided to hlp vic carry e macs stuffs, so went to main gate to wait.. den saw chloe on the way.. helped her find e swimming pool.. lol.. np! =) ran back l8er 2 hlp them.. lol.. milo spilled into the plastic.. cos they nv cover it properly.. --__-- lol? ok, so we chiong lunch.. seaweed shaker rox.. =) aft lunch was scavenger hunt.. so they went out finding cluse and all that stuffs.. gave some forfeits for some groups.. first half of it was stoning session where the exco were playing soccer in the jb atrium.. --__-- jia kai kena scolding by alicia goh n we froze for a minute when edward ng walked by with a “what the hell?” look on his face.. LOL.. ;) RIGE exco... haiz.. no wonder jon ho says we’re the most screwed up exco ever.. hahax! lol.. den l8er some of them went to J8 2 buy e prizes and all tt stuffs.. stoned with keng chee’s grp n gave them hints and forfeits 4 clues... ordered pizza 1/2way den keng chee come n ask me.. “wad’s e meaning of defenestrate?” I tht he FINISHED.. so I replied, “to throw sth out of the window” den he was lk.. “oh shit” LOL? OK I think I jus self jacked la.. *oops* lol.. den l8er played war games aft dinner.. quite fun la.. I was e random rubber band dropper.. random killer too.. =) lol.. kilt quite a few.. =P zai.. =) then we had fright night.. went with jon ho to the 3rd storey to scare the ppls.. lol.. jon ho n his scary white cloth.. + one red sock from the top.. lol? ok.. did really freak some ppls out.. den l8er jon gan went 2 msg jon ho.. --__--“ smart la.. the whole building heard “message Message MESsage MESSAge MESSAGEEEEEEEEEE” okk.. --__-- the game was over at that point la.. heard tt they also went to the atrium 3rd floor 2 find vic n reyrey.. lol? ok, fright night screw up.. haiz.. but got one sec1 scared enuf not to bathe.. lol.. meant tt it wasn’t tt fail after all la..
Watched spiderman 3 n 300 till the next day.. slept at 4.. OMG.. was damn l8.. felt damn sleepy the nxt day.. =P so only got a few of us who woke up 2 give breakfast.. lol.. hahax.. soccer was sian.. went 4 lunch l8er, bought prizes, kevin’s lame jokes actually quite funny de.. LOL. let them watch spiderman 3 n 300 l8er.. got 2 movs 2 choose from.. guess it’s the first time tt they can watch 2 movs ba.. hahax.. abit different from the previous yrs.. =) watched species in e guit rm with the rest of e exco.. lol.. scary horror mov tt got kevin abit scared.. lol.. its jus a show la! ok, then it was debrief den go home..
Tt’s all for the fun camp.. nice.
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